Hilarious story on the BBC today. Hilarious in a kind of “only because it’s not happening to me” kind of way, like when other people’s children fall off swings and suchlike.
Apparently, a set of twins who were adopted separately at birth ended up married to each other without realising.
Altogether now: ewww.
A court annulled the marriage after they found out the truth (wouldn’t want to have been in the room for that discovery), and the two unfortunate folks meandered away, mentally bruised and feeling slightly wrong in a way they couldn’t explain.
Except that’s not the end of it, because naturally, this is cue for lots of chin-stroking bullshit about the nature of genetic relationships, about “being drawn” to one another, about the rights and wrongs of adoption, and so on until the coma sets in.
The High Court judge in the case (always got their fingers on the pulse of modern living, that lot, don’t let the wigs fool you) said that the two had felt “an inevitable attraction”.
Oh really? REALLY? I don’t think so. I don’t think that what these poor folks felt was “inevitable”, any more than it’s inevitable that drunk women wearing short skirts end up getting raped (sorry, a strange tangent, I was just trying to follow the thinking of a High Court judge for a second there). What happened was simply an amazing – and for those involved, shitty and highly unfortunate – coincidence.
I mean, think about it, what are the chances? Seriously – what are the chances that such people are even going to MEET in later life, let alone fall into bed and marital disharmony with one another? Where do they live, the Isle of Man?
In real life (and/or major conubations), the chances of people meeting their genetic relations and falling in love with them by accident is so slim as to be irrelevant. And that’s it. All ill-informed “truth will out”, the “importance of biological relationships” social worker-stylee analysis is just so much pointless guff.
Yes, adopted folk should know who their biological parents are, because it’s important to them and they have a right to their own genetic history. But – and here’s the key thing – not because there’s a chance in hell they’re going to SLEEP with their genetic relations. To suggest as much is just to confuse (and add an entirely unhelpful layer of pseudo-smut to) an entirely valid debate.
By the way, one of the talking heads approached for this article was one Pam Hodgkins, chief executive officer of the charity Adults Affected by Adoption (NORCAP). Shouldn’t someone tell Pam that, when you change the name of your organisation, it’s generally considered sensible to change the acronym that goes with it?
‘A pair of twins who were adopted by separate families as babies got married without knowing they were brother and sister, a peer told the House of Lords.
A court annulled the UK couple's union after they discovered their true relationship, Lord Alton said. The peer - who was told of the case by a High Court judge involved - said the twins felt an "inevitable attraction". He said the case showed how important it was for children to be able to find out about their biological parents.
Details of the of the identities of the twins involved have been kept secret, but Lord Alton said the pair did not realise they were related until after their marriage.
The former Liberal Democrat MP raised the couple's case during a House of Lords debate on the Human Fertility and Embryology Bill in December.
"They were never told that they were twins," he told the Lords. "They met later in life and felt an inevitable attraction, and the judge had to deal with the consequences of the marriage that they entered into and all the issues of their separation."
He told the BBC News website that their story raises the wider issue of the importance of strengthening the rights of children to know the identities of their biological parents .
"If you start trying to conceal someone's identity, sooner or later the truth will out," he said. "And if you don't know you are biologically related to someone, you may become attracted to them and tragedies like this may occur."
Pam Hodgkins, chief executive officer of the charity Adults Affected by Adoption (NORCAP) said there had been previous cases of separated siblings being attracted to each other.
"We have a resistance, a very strong incest taboo where we are aware that someone is a biological relative," she said. "But when we are unaware of that relationship, we are naturally drawn to people who are quite similar to ourselves. And of course there is unlikely to be anyone more similar to any individual than their sibling." ‘